“I hate feminists. All they do is jabber about how men are worthless and that men oppress all women around them. I wish she wasn’t such a cranky old lady!” a few words have been edited for the sanctity of this paper. Can you guess where I overheard this? No? Well it was two boys in the 4th floor boy’s bathroom in Gruening at lunchtime. Both boys were young, sounded very immature, and somewhat stupid. That is the description of both boys to the tee, I never saw the boys so I cannot speculate as to how the looked.
New context
Two women are walking around in their work wearing nice suits and their hair is all done up. They smell of rich perfume and walk with their heads held high. Both women have sparkling reputations for being top-notch bankers as well as good coworkers. Today there is a sexual harassment seminar; it is annually company mandated.
The men dread this day as they usually get picked on more then the women for simply being men. The women who run the seminars never seem to help this by starring only at the men in the seminars when they speak. In addition, spouses and significant others of the workers are invited to participate in the seminar to ensure a fuller experience for the employees.
This year the leader of the seminar is a 60-year-old women who, as rumors say, divorced her husband because he said she couldn’t do his job for a day. Keep in mind that she was a psychologist before deciding to run sexual harassment seminars. Also, the husband was a trained military official with specialties in explosives. So yes, she most likely could not have done his job for a day. Anyhow, as the rumor goes she got upset and this kicked off a fight, which led to their divorce. Crazy rumor right?
So the two women, Tanya and Kate, walk into the seminar and are instantly greeted by the leader, Sadie. Sadie tells them that they are strong and intelligent women with no need to take flak from anyone. Tanya and Kate proceed to say thank you and move on to their seats in the ballroom where the seminar would be conducted.
As the seminar begins, the two women notice that almost all the men from the company had brought along their spouses. The spouses varied in dress greatly; some wearing expensive work outfits, others wearing simpler homely clothing, and even some that were dressed more “manly” than their husbands.
As the seminar came to a break for lunch, the two women walked to the lobby for refreshments where they overheard a group of the wives discussing the seminar. One said, “I hate it when some women think that just because we choose to be house wives that we are weak and somehow need empowerment.” Another said, “I hate feminists. All they do is jabber about how men are worthless and that men oppress all women around them. I wish she wasn’t such a cranky old lady!” The rest of the women agreed in the group,
Tanya and Kate talked amongst themselves and had never thought of it that way. They had always been the “strong” women who are in the workplace and never even thought of being a stay-at-home-mother. They depended on themselves and not men for finances, but never thought about how rewarding being a stay-at-home-mother could be.
Context is quite important. As you can see I changed the meaning from a pissed off man to a stay-at-home-mother who dislikes women who look down upon her for not working. These contexts are quite different and change the meaning of what was said. People should be concerned with context because the right statement taken out of context can make someone look like a racist, a sexist, or even completely stupid.
